Appearance Counts

When it comes to certain physical attributes, we have to accept what God gave us, and do our best with what we have. When it comes to our appearance, we should be nothing less than the best. Most gals understand this, and invest lots of time, money, and effort into making themselves look as good as possible before appearing in public, and especially before a date. Many guys don’t. I’m not speaking to the guys (I know many of them) who really do make the effort to look their best. I’m speaking to those guys, and gals, who either don’t know, or care, about the right way to present themselves on a date, or in general social situations. Here are some pointers that, if you heed, will help you, in a big way, succeed in your soulmate search.

Style is a matter of personal preference. Some prefer conservative, while others lean towards funky or artsy. It also depends on the style of your particular social circle. If you are Chassidic, pink shirts on guys are probably not cool. Appearance has a uniform standard across all styles and forms of dress: neat and clean. This standard applies to any kind of clothing you choose to wear. Your shirt must be clean (that means no stains of any kind), and pressed. A wrinkled shirt tells a gal that the guy wearing it is either sloppy and careless, is too cheap to spend 2 bucks on dry cleaning, or just doesn’t take his dating seriously. The same goes for pants and suits. Shoes should be polished. A “shloompy” looking guy is a real turn off. Gals want a guy who can take charge of a situation and make them feel safe. If he can’t take charge of his own clothing, how will he ever deal with the responsibilities of marriage and family? By the way, this applies to job interview too. Unless you’re a super genius geek, you won’t get the job if you look like a slob. A good way to make sure you look good when you go out is to splurge on a couple of clothing combos that you know work. Go to Banana Republic and buy one or two shirts and trousers. I know they’re expensive, but at least you’ll know that when you where those items you’ll be looking like “money” (Swinger’s reference). It’s worth it, trust me.

Once you’ve put on your clean, ironed clothing, make sure everything is tucked, buttoned, tied, and zipped properly. An open fly can really mess up your smooth operation. You should also probably stick a comb or brush in your hair and get whatever you’ve got up there in order. Shaving wouldn’t hurt either.

Although I said that style is a matter of personal preference, I would suggest some advice from someone who has their style act together. It could be a guy, but if possible, try to ask one of your gal friends, because they know what other gals find attractive. Gals love shopping, picking and matching clothing, and doing makeovers, so they’ll be more than happy to assist you.

Gals, I’m going to tread very carefully here, but I need you to hear what I have to say. Not every gal can wear every type of clothing. Some styles, colors, and patterns are not flattering to some physical builds, sizes, and shapes. I won’t go any further, since I’m not an expert in woman’s fashion, but I will be bold enough to recommend that you find a friend or a professional who will be brutally honest and tell you what you should and shouldn’t wear. If your friend or roommate always tells you that you look great in everything you try on, you need to be suspicious. She might be afraid to hurt you, or she might only focus on your inner beauty (which your date will not do), or she might even be a little jealous and want you to look like a sack of potatoes. Get an objective opinion, and get some expert advice, even if you have to pay for it. Same goes for guys. It’ll be the best money you’ll ever spend.

Appearances do count, a lot, so make sure you look in the mirror before you go out, and look your best.

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